Seeing Things Clearly
I spent a lot of time in Toronto last year. I was essentially breaking into the Twitter social scene and met A LOT of people. In all honestly the amount of hands I shook and “hi I’m Justin” that came out of my mouth are upwards of a couple hundred. It’s weird to think about coming across so many faces and so many names in such a small amount of time. Coming into 2012 I sat back and thought to myself I’ve just about had enough in terms of constantly getting out and meeting new people. It was amazingly fun but also exhausting both physically and financially. Looking back on 2011, I consider myself very fortunate to have met some fantastic people. People I consider not just fun folks to see now and then but also great friends. With my 32nd birthday upcoming, I reached out to one of those great friends in Tiffany and we put together one hell of a great party.
We hit up The Firkin On King, one of Tiffany‘s favourite spots. I wanted to give a big thanks to our server Trish. Good lord that girl worked like a mofo. At its peak, our party probably had 40 people there and she was in the midst of it all. She always had a smile on her face, was quick to check on people’s drinks, and couldn’t have been more of a joy.
While I’m always happy to meet new friends, I’m looking forward to spending a lot more time in the future with the great ones I’ve made. I think as I get older I’m finding smaller groups in more intimate settings is the way to go. It’s a stark contrast to my old “HEY LET’S GET 50 PEOPLE AND GO TO THE LOUD PLACE!” On the upside, I think I’ll enjoy my time with friends far more. On the downswing, I think a lot of friends that I saw regularly will drop off. My birthday was eye opening not in just who I heard from or saw, but who I didn’t hear from whatsoever.
No call, text, email, tweet, Facebook, Raven (had to do it). I’m not a difficult person to get in contact with. I’ve spent so much time maintaining connections over the years. As I’ve eased back (a lot of it has to do with me no longer driving) and can’t be everywhere at others convenience, you just don’t hear from the same people. It has made me think about how many one sided friendships I’ve maintained over the years. You don’t see it when you’re in the midst of it all. When looking from the outside in, you can get a harshly clear perspective on people and life in general. Sometimes you’re just not a priority, or in this case even a footnote. it’s almost impossible to accept but it’s a necessary evil for growth in life.
As I like to say at the awkward moment when everyone leaves the movies and you’re standing outside wondering what to do next
“Alright we’re done here.”